Category Archives: Marriage/Family

8 Minus “Jon & Kate”

I have never watched a single episode of the popular television reality show “Jon & Kate Plus 8” but I have noticed that suddenly some of the blogs I follow are suddenly all abuzz about the apparent marital struggles of the famous couple.

Here is a fascinating article by Julie Vermeer Elliot about the potential disintegration of the Gosselin marriage and what it says about American evangelical culture.

What really strikes me as sad is not only the train wreck of pain these two young people are marching toward, but the collateral damage the eight children will experience.

I could only wish that people will tune the show out and therefore help bring the couple back down to earth. Unfortunately, the opposite will probably occur: ratings will probably shoot through the roof.  How many more families have to be destroyed by the lure of fame and wealth for us to finally realize these idols don’t deliver what they promise?

“Children are a Kind of Wealth”

“Children are a kind of wealth,” according to Barbara Curtis, mother of twelve ranging in ages 8-39. Most Americans would find this king of statement strange or flat out absurd. We are now living in an era in which a large family is considered by the mainstream to be a sort of freak show. It was not this way not so long ago. According to an excellent recent New York Times article

In 1976, census data show, 59 percent of women ages 40 to 44 had three or more children, 20 percent had five or more and 6 percent had seven or more. By 2006…28 percent of women ages 40-44 had three or more children, 4 percent had five or more and just 0.5 percent had seven or more.”

So a lot has changed in just 30 years. As an ONLY child raised in the 70s, I probably had an uncommon view. To me, a family with two children was normal.  A family with three or more children was large. My uncommon view then is common now.

We have chosen to buck the trend.

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