One of the great lies that the latest generation is embracing is that it is a good idea to live together before getting married. Glenn Stanton has written a book titled The Ring Makes All the Difference:The Hidden Consequences of Cohabitation and the Strong Benefits of Marriage. Considering the reality that over 60% of marriages today are preceded by cohabitation, the subject is very relevant. Stanton also recently blogged about the subject:
Well, the good news is we don’t have to wonder about strong, reliable answers to those questions. An absolute wealth of social science research by leading sociologists and demographers of the family are telling us much about the consequences of living together before marriage. Here are some of the most startling findings:
- If couples want to dramatically boost their likelihood of divorcing once married, few things so widely practiced will ensure that than cohabiting. This is just the opposite of what most believe.
- If women want to significantly increase their chances of being a victim of physical, sexual and verbal violence from their mate, cohabitation is what they are looking for. Men with rings on their fingers are dramatically less likely to be abusers of any sort.”