A couple of days ago I recommended Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp. But if you are familiar with that book you know that if your child is 11 or 12 years old, then you know that Shepherding might be a little late for you. What about the parent who is trembling before the dreaded teenage years? For parents of pre-teens, I know of no better resource than Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens by Paul David Tripp (Tedd’s brother).
Here is a couple of excerpts…
Teenagers’ lives tend to be dominated by concerns about the world that can be seen, touched, and tasted. They fret tearfully about how they look. They long to be accepted by their peers. They hold their “stuff” possessively. They talk in dramatic terms aobut what looks beautiful or tastes appealing to them. They are crushed when someone mocks an outfit. They anguish over perceived rejection. Teenagers tend to be intensely materialistic, that is, focused on the physical world.”
Our teenagers need to understand that they do not live in a vacuum. They live in a culture that will exercise its influence on every area of their lives. It is important that they not only learn to protect themselves from the culture’s pollutants, but also learn how to influence their culture with the truth of Jesus Christ. As we seek to prepare them, we need to be humbly honest about the places where our own lifestyles have been more shaped by cultural norms than by biblical principles. We cannot disciple our teenagers into a consistently biblical lifestyle without being willing to evaluate the places where are own lives are inconsistent.”